Dore Talk

Keep plodding mate and soon a light at the end of the tunnel will appear.  Stay firm, strict and in control.  The kids need consistency and to barely miss sessions. I think over the year we missed approx 10-15 sessions.  These were when Luke was unwell with flu for about a week for example.  We managed the exercises whilst on holiday in Majorca for a week (just) and when I was in hospital last August Dad & Nan knew it was most important he didn't miss it.  I have to say my husband has probably carried out 25% of the exercises so this is of course is massive support to Luke who knows that along with both his parents we are all working as a team.  When I was sick and tired of doing DORE (and many a time I was, trust me) I never let on to Luke.

They are all so different.  Luke still struggles with maths & general school work but he is well behaved, mature & sensible.  His social skills have improved though they weren't too bad in the beginning, but his confidence & self esteem is positively better.  I think not only has DORE contributed to this, but attending Cadets, becoming a teenager and settling in school as he is Year 8 now and I think in general by Year 8 the kids have grasped whats what within the school environment. 

So chin up, remain undefeated & determined and hopefully the pay off will be fantastic.

I've never told any of his teachers and they still don't know.  Any recognition, rewards, certificates etc will be off his own back and by his own doing and not because the teachers are looking for it knowing he is on the DORE course.  And also, as I work at the same school that Luke attends (TA) and know many of his teachers, it would be easy for them as a 'colleague' to mention something positive to me, do you know what I mean?  (A tip someone gave me when we first registered here)!

Jackie

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Sarah - as others have said, don't be disheartened. I was always really disappointed with the balance machine results. All my friends had fantastic "greens" and we never really managed them. Sarah in Bromley would coach Harry on how to stand properly, but we never saw those good results, even at the end.

Look at the improvements at home. The social skills and maturity will come. We saw great improvements after about 5 months, and its early days for you yet.

As I've said before, we were told about a year, and did 2  - a long time, but really worth it! I have a completely different child now. I had an email home last night from his maths teacher - "Harry is working fantastically well in Maths this week! Focussed and hard working - GREAT!"

Keep plodding on and you will both get through ... the grass is definitely greener on the other side 

PS. We always found that Harry had some really bad days where he was completely "away with the fairies" and then a few days later, he would do something that always left us gobsmacked - so watch for them (they may be only small, but small steps make huge gains).

Good luck and let us know how you go.

 Hi, thanks once again for your replies! 

Its lovely to hear how well the children have done on the programme as  its such an incentive to carry on!!  

 Sar xx